On unravelling and putting things back together
**Trigger warning** They say when you are stressed, you need to remove the stressor. What if that stressor is your husband and you have been together for nearly 25 years? It’s not that easy. This is the situation I find myself in at the 2.5 year mark of my husband working from home. As I…Read More
Reflecting On My Three Months of Lockdown
They’ve said we can go out. Lockdown is over. I thought this is what I have been craving for three months. Yet, now that I can, I’m not sure I want to. For the past few weeks it has been raining non-stop in Singapore. There is even a rumour that the Singapore Government has been…Read More
From Being Lost to Finding Myself Again. 2009-2019.
I am choosing to walk into 2020 with a different story. Yet the story of the past decade shaped me, and will always be part of my narrative. When I turned 40 in 2015, I decided that a decade-long approach to achieving my goals held the key to mitigating the anxiety that surrounded the annual…Read More
Coming of Age and The Joshua Tree
January 1989. I boarded a Greyhound Coach on my own for a 12-hour trip up the coast to Lismore, a country town in Australia, to spend a week of my summer break with my friend, Sarah. I was 14. Sarah, the daughter of my tennis coach, would come down to visit her dad during school holidays.…Read More
When Facebook Memories is a Double-Edged Sword
And there it was again. As I opened up Facebook Memories that picture stared back at me, sending a shockwave of stress and anguish through my core. 3 years on, the feelings were as fresh as the day the photo had been posted. To anyone else looking at it, this is a lovely photo. I…Read More
Vagina on Fire – Part 2: When it hurts down there.
A PUBIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT This post is not about waking up at 40 and wanting to go on a sex-crazed rampage. This is women’s business. It is about my vagina being on fire. Like actually on fire. I am hoping that my experiences will shed light on something that can help at least one Maxer…Read More
The year the internet broke us
Technology got the better of us this year. We were not prepared for the speed with which new apps were introduced. Before we could really grasp all this new technology, it had consumed us in addiction. We looked down and we did not look up. If we had looked up, we would seen the pain, destruction…Read More
“How Are You?”
“How Are You?” I received this simple message from a friend today and it paralysed me. It suddenly felt like a very loaded question. I delayed responding. I did not want to answer because I did not know how to. I wrote back a little while later, “I kind of feel these days that it depends…Read More