From Being Lost to Finding Myself Again. 2009-2019.

I am choosing to walk into 2020 with a different story. Yet the story of the past decade shaped me, and will always be part of my narrative.  When I turned 40 in 2015, I decided that a decade-long approach to achieving my goals held the key to mitigating the anxiety that surrounded the annual…

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When Facebook Memories is a Double-Edged Sword

And there it was again. As I opened up Facebook Memories that picture stared back at me, sending a shockwave of stress and anguish through my core. 3 years on, the feelings were as fresh as the day the photo had been posted. To anyone else looking at it, this is a lovely photo. I…

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The year the internet broke us

Technology got the better of us this year. We were not prepared for the speed with which new apps were introduced. Before we could really grasp all this new technology, it had consumed us in addiction. We looked down and we did not look up. If we had looked up, we would seen the pain, destruction…

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Vagina on Fire: Sexual Re-Awakening in Your 40s

Vagina on Fire: Sexual Re-Awakening in Your 40s A quick guide on how to cope when your vagina suddenly wakes up. “I did it Mum, I wiped my own bum”, chirped my 7 year old as he skipped proudly to me for a High-Five. And there it was. The moment. After 11 years of raising…

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Marriage: It Boils Down to Two Choices

Marriage: It Boils Down to Two Choices I have had three separate women in my life tell me over the past six months that their relationships with their husbands weren’t going well. This is not a shocking or surprising statement as the journey of marriage is a rocky ride filled with good and not so good…

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3 Ways to Improve Intimacy in Your Relationship

I have been thinking a lot about intimacy in relationships recently.Every relationship has its own unique dynamic, but what I am most intrigued by is the dynamic of communication within relationships. More specifically, what happens when you want to change that dynamic in your own relationship.

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Being a Financial Equal of Your Husband

Being a Financial Equal of Your Husband As far as I am concerned, striving for financial independence is critically important, and it is why it is the No. 1 item on My Maximalist. The other night I caught up with a friend I have known for 35 years. She is a very beautiful and vivacious…

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A Valentine’s Day Message

A Valentine’s Day Message My husband was born without the romantic gene. Which is unfortunate. For the past 16 years of marriage, I have been my husband’s PA – a non-paying role that has resulted in me having to organise Valentine’s Day for myself. I have had to buy my own presents and organise the…

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